It's not that you should never do the things you like that your dog doesn't, but you want to be aware of whom you are gratifying at any given time. And if you're trying to provide positive reinforcement for good behavior, make sure the reinforcer is something your dog actually likes. (Another classic example: the dog owner gives the dog a treat and a pat on the head. The dog takes the treat, but dodges the pat on the head, looking annoyed. What the owner has accomplished is reward AND punishment - not the best way to get the behavior you want!)
So I am starting a list of things that I like, and another list of things that Bagel likes.
Things that are enjoyable for ME:
- Hugging Bagel
- Cuddling with Bagel
- Kissing Bagel's face and ears
- Petting his soft head
- Smelling his ears
Things that are enjoyable for BAGEL:
- Playing tug
- Being chased for his toy
- Running
- Being stalked
- Belly rubs